Similarly, Asian men’s dating profiles are consistently rated the lowest by single women using online dating sites. “Attractiveness is a very haphazard dish that can’t be boiled down to height or skin colour, but Asian men are told that regardless of what the idyllic mirepoix is or isn’t, we just don’t have the ingredients,” television host Eddie Huang recently wrote in the New York Times.“The structural emasculation of Asian men in all forms of media became a self-fulfilling prophecy that produced an actual abhorrence to Asian men in the real world.”Pop culture is a window into desire.Consider the male Asian characters in movies you’ve seen in the last several years. When was the last time you saw a North American film where a desirable Asian man played the romantic lead and didn’t know martial arts?Trying to set up a date with a cute guy on Bumble recently had me all kinds of stressed out.
But often you see guys putting really curious things in their profiles or sending pretty random first messages in an attempt to be quirky and different.
I’d even offered to visit his town on a weekend night, but he declined.
This went on for two or three weeks before I finally stopped replying to his texts.
Now that I’m four years into professional matchmaking, I’ve seen clear patterns emerge when it comes to race and attraction. Women of every racial background seem to strongly prefer dating you.
Asian and Latin women are most popular with the gents.