Notice there isn’t an easily accessible formula for how young girls can go, or how old boys can go.A large part of that injustice is mental growth rates.Research on age difference in couples suggests that while the desired gap for men and women is around 13-14 years on average (10-15 years), as specified in their partner preferences on online dating sites, in reality long-term pairs only have 3-4 years disparity.The research data may be surprising, but it makes sense.Here are four problems you'll likely run into if you break the 8-year rule: I once went out with a woman who was under the impression that Lauryn Hill was made famous by being in “Sister Act 2.”Now, there are a few reactions you can have to this.One is, “Well, it a good movie.” Two is, “God, people already forgot about The Fugees, huh? ” If your answer is either two or three, then we're on the same page.If that's not an easy conversation opener, I truly don't know what is.)But after all sorts of successes and failures with women, as time has gone on, I've found at least common failure: a massive age gap.I'm, by no means, the most mature 30-year-old dude you're going to meet, and I'm not insinuating that all younger women are flighty or immature.
Second, the formula exposes the interesting stereotype that girls are trying to date older guys, while guys only want to date younger girls.
When dating, we are more open to trying out new things, thus a wider gap we list as acceptable. We had very little to talk about or discuss, and never been very close. There was really nothing connecting us except our interest in each other.
But relationships are more than just movies and dinners, and moonlight walks on the beach. Other research suggests that the ideal gap in relationships is 4.4 years, and divorced people tend to have a larger disparity in subsequent marriages. Young people usually pair up within their age group, as at that point in life their circle of communication is limited to people of about the same maturity. By then our circles of acquaintances grow to be more spread through generations, and personal values and life style become more important than how old the two partners are.
Women usually mature at faster rates than men, which means that most will look at older guys because they have increasingly similar mental facilities.
On the flip side, guys often prefer to feel younger than they actually are.